St. Conleth’s Parish Funeral Mass

(Readings Prayers and reflections)

TO THOSE WHO ARE BEREAVED

We want you to know that your sorrow and grief is shared by the whole Parish Family. We will support you in every possible way. We will also pray for you and with you.

There are two ceremonies in the church:

1:     The reception at the church

This is a ceremony of prayers, readings and hymns. This usually takes place the evening before the Funeral Mass.

2:     The Funeral Mass

The funeral Mass has a clear message of hope. In the following pages there is a selection of Bible readings to chose from. Pick those that have a special meaning for you. Some members of the family may be composed enough to do the  Readings. But if it would be an ordeal, feel free to ask friends of the family or a neighbour.What to Choose?

  1.    One reading from the Old Testament.
  2.    One reading from the New Testament.
  3.    Prayers of the Faithful. (Choose between 3 and 5.)
  4.    Offertory:  (Bread and Wine Only.)
  5.    Communion reflection (Chosen  from the Reflections provided. See Below)
  6.    Music: Choose from the Hymns suggested below. Any other music chosen aught to be    appropriate to a religious ceremony and approved by the Priest .
  7.    Personal gifts that reflect the life of your loved one which are presented at the                    beginning of the Mass.

Old Testament Readings OldTestamentMedium2

Choose one Old Testament  reading From the Link Below.

Link To Old Testament Readings.


Holy Bible open to the New Testament
Holy Bible open to the New Testament

 New Testament Readings

(Choose one New Testament Reading from the Link Below)

Link to New Testament Readings


Prayers of the Faithful

(Choose around four prayers from the list)

       1. N……. touched the lives of all of us. Help us to keep alive in our lives the values and           the ideals he/she put before us.

           Lord hear us.

      2. God of all consolation, help us to comfort one another in our grief, finding light in time           of darkness, and faith in time of doubt.

           Lord hear us.

      3. God is full of mercy and compassion. May he forgive N…… any sins he/she                           committed through human frailty.

           Lord hear us.

      4. Let us pray for all those who care for the sick and the dying, especially for those who             cared for N…… during his/her illness.

          Lord hear us.

      5. Be with all who are in sorrow and mourning the loss of N…… God of consolation                   give them the courage and strength to live through this time of suffering which has                 been laid upon them and give them a deep peace, which only you can give.

          Lord hear us.

      6. In the face of the trauma of death, we ask the Lord to walk with us in faith, because               with our human eyes, all we see is pain and separation.                                                              Lord hear us.

 

.     7. Lord, we ask your blessing today on all those who are seriously ill, be close to them              in their time of sickness, and if it be your will, heal them and restore them to full                     health again.

.         Lord hear us.

.    8. We remember today all who are terminally ill, Lord, be close to them as they enter                into the last stage of their journey towards their homeland. Keep alive in them the                 flame of faith and hope as they draw near to their father’s house.

.         Lord hear us.

.    9. Blessed are we who are saddened by the loss of one whom we have loved: may our            hope in the Resurrection and promise of eternal life bring us comfort and turn our                  sadness to joy.

.         Lord hear us.

.10.  We pray for all our departed brothers and sisters, today we pray for _____________             may N…… be reunited with them in God’s Kingdom where there is no more pain                   or suffering.

.         Lord hear us.


Communion Reflections

Death is not the End

Death is nothing at all- I have only slipped away into the next room, whatever we were to each other that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way, which you always used. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me, Let my name be the household word that is always was, Let it be spoken without effort. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting around for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well. Nothing is past: nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before- only better, infinitely happier and forever- we will all be one together with christ

Henry Scott Holland.


Peace at Last

May the Lord support us all the day long, till the shades lengthen, and the evening comes and the bust world is hushed, and the fever of life is over and out work is done, Then in his mercy, may he give us a safe lodging, a holy rest, and peace at the last. Amen

Cardinal Newman

 


Footprints in the sand

One night a man had a dream, He dreamt that he was walking along a beach with the Lord, Across the sky flasher the scenes of his life, For each scene he noticed not one but two sets of footprints in the sand. He understood immediately that one belonged to him, and the other to the Lord. But then he noticed a curious thing. At the lowest and saddest times in his life there was only one set of footprints. This bothered him, and so he asked the Lord: “How come that during the most difficult times in my life, the very times when I most needed you,  you left me on my own?” The Lord replied, “My friend, during your trials and sufferings, when you see only one set of footpronts, those footprints are mine. It was then I carried you”

 


 

I’m Free

Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free,
I’m following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard his call,
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work, to play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I’ve found that peace at the close of the day.

If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Ah yes, these things I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My Life’s been full, I savoured much,
Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch,

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me,
God wanted me now, He set me free.


Perhaps

Perhaps, if we could see the splendour of the land to which our loved ones are called from you and me, we’d understand. Perhaps, if we could hear the welcome they receive from old familiar voices all so dear, we would not grieve. Perhaps, if we could know the reasons why they went, we’d smile- and wipe away the tears that flow: we’d wait content.

 


 

Gone only from out sight.

 

 I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, ‘There, she is gone’

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me – not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, ‘There, she is gone,’
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, ‘Here she comes!’

And that is dying…

Death comes in its own time, in its own way.
Death is as unique as the individual experiencing it.


I Did Not Die.

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.


Simple Life But Close To God

It is a simple life we lived here, but nobody could say that it was comfortable. Often during life  I have known God’s holy help, because I was often in the grip of a sorrow from which I could not escape. When the need was greatest and the clouds of sorrow would be gone without trace. in the place would be a spiritual joy whose sweetness I cannot describe here. There are people who think this island is a lonely place, but the peace of God is here. We helped each other, and lived in the shelter of each other. But now my  life is spent, like a candle into the eternal kingdom. May God guide me on this long road I have not travelled before. I think that everything is folly except for loving God.

 

Peig Sayers from ‘An Old Woman Remembers’